The Julia Shapiro Method is a four-step method designed to help those experiencing relationship turmoil decide whether or not they should call it quits. The Method serves as a powerful tool, refined over the years, to help The Participant gain insights into their Current Romantic Relationship.
The Method is not to be used lightly. The Julia Shapiro Method is a dangerous tool. Only complete The Steps when you truly feel ready to witness The Results.
All responses are private to this session and are never stored or shared.
Create a Mind Map with at least 10 branches of anything that comes to mind when you think about the person you are romantically entwined with and your relationship to Said Person. Feel free to be abstract and free associate. This exercise works best when you are nonjudgmental with yourself, allowing any thoughts that arise to come through without resistance.
Mark anything that feels positive with a :) and anything that feels negative with a :( ...this will help you fill out the following Pros/Cons lists about your Current Romantic Partner.
Here are your Hearts and Hazards. Feel free to edit, delete, or add new entries.
List all the traits you wish for in your Ideal Partner.
Drag to rank your traits from most to least important. Your top 10 are scored — the rest appear for reference only.
This is your Current Partner's grade. WARNING! Anything below 60% is an automatic fail.
Anything below 60% is an automatic fail.
The Method notes your decision.
You may proceed.
When choosing a partner, people commonly swing between two extremes of personality types. A negative experience on one side of the spectrum can push them toward seeking its opposite in the future.
Take a moment to consider your past relationships and identify your Prominent Partnership Pattern: are two of your Previous Partners on opposite ends of your Romantic Spectrum? What qualities do they have that differ? Feel free to enter in your own response.
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